Postpartum Depression & Major Life Events

Setting: When I turned forty, I tumbled slowly into the deep hole that is depression. While caring for a six-month-old infant, two older kids, and starting a new job, I was busy (some days nearly frantic). I had always been full of energy and drive, able to handle anything that my NICU practice or my…

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A Good Mentor is Easy to Find.

What is a good mentor? Is there someone in your workplace with good leadership and communication skills, someone you see as a potential advisor, who is older than you by five, ten, or even fifteen years? Is there someone who you admire with experience to share? Finding a mentor connects you with a person more…

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Seven ways to avoid being a helicopter parent

If you want to be a solidly practical, good parent, and not an overly protective helicopter parent, you might consider following these rules: 1. Do not do their homework for them. I never did homework for my kids, but I did help my child with dyslexia & ADHD learn to spell words. Once I helped…

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Stress & alcohol use

Most of us drink alcohol to be sociable or/& to relieve stress. Stress gives us muscle tension & headaches, jaw clenching & teeth grinding, irritability, impatience & negative thinking. It makes us feel tired, like we have low energy. We may feel unable to relax. Stress may cause indigestion, acid reflux, or nausea. When we…

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The stages of a woman’s life.

What stage of life are you in? The photo below was me at 59, on vacation, thinking about turning sixty. My son snapped the shot & told me later he thought I “seemed pensive, but was aging well.” As women, we go through so many life stages: Adolescence brings those hormones & body changes. We…

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Burnout in Healthcare Professionals

BURNOUT feels like hell! You care about neither your work nor your patients. You no longer think you are making a difference. You dread going in for your shift & you feel disconnected from your peers. I know how burnout feels because I’ve been there. After 30 years of practicing neonatology I found myself completely…

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What Successful Working Mothers Know – Part II

# 1 Self-care is mandatory. An empty cup cannot serve. Taking time for ourselves is crucial to maintain our mental, physical, & spiritual health. To stay healthy, we need exercise, a good diet & adequate sleep. That is some tall order when you are running around chasing children & a job! However, we must know…

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What Successful Working Mothers Know – Part I

#1 Your job should leave you feeling fulfilled. Many working mothers reassess their job after their first child comes along. We examine our satisfaction at work because it is literally time away from our baby. As we reassess our current job, it is important to be honest about our degree of fulfillment & whether we…

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Explaining the Biology of Happiness

On a chemical level, our happiness basically stems from levels of four hormones (or neurotransmitters): 1) dopamine, 2) serotonin, 3) endorphin, & 4) oxytocin. Each plays a unique role in making us feel good. Dopamine drives reward-seeking behavior in our brains. If you eat something delicious or have an orgasm, & your brain releases some…

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Understanding Your Mom Stress: Relationship Demands

Relationship demands cut into our free time & add to our stress. As we invest more time into raising our children, sometimes our other relationships get neglected, especially when our children are young & need lots of attention. Mothers of young children frequently feel torn between meeting the needs of their infants & toddlers &…

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